January Recap

Jan 3         Marvin died peacefully at 8:30AM.  Sandy, Lizzie and I to Black Angus.
Jan 4         Deliver chocolates to Fresenius. In'n'Out. Clean fridge.
Jan 5         Drink Veuve Cliquodt champagne. And Margaritas.
Jan 6         El Cholo
Jan 7         Sandy left to SLC.  12/60 Pub
Jan 8         T to rehab
Jan 9         Rain. Lizzie and I to Cerritos Mortuary.  Lizzie left to SD
Jan 12       With Jennifer to Olive Garden
Jan 13       Sandy & Marty to Mazatlan. N all day helping take out Xmas lights.
Jan 16       Hair Salon.
Jan 17       Rose Hills called. Cremation. Lunch with Jennifer.
Jan 20       Lizzie over. To Auntie's
Jan 22       With Lizzie to Rose Hills. Ashes and flag.  Señor Campos. Lizzie to SD
Jan 23        Dinner to Cuban Restaurant Moro's with Amy.
Jan 28       N all day. Clean Jacuzzi etc. In'n'Out. Have a cold.
Jan 31       Full blood blue moon eclipse. Got up at 5:00AM

I also cleaned and packed and gave away M's clothes. Clean bathroom etc. Also talked to Dewey and Bettie and Sonia. It's lonely but Lulu is good company.

BOOKS I READ IN JANUARY

MOVIES I WATCHED IN JANUARY

Life goes on...

It's been over 3 weeks since Marv died. Sandy wrote a very meaningful post explaining how his last days were. So I won't write anything else about it, just happy that he got to spend his last days with the people he loved and loved him. Thank you Sandy and Lizzie for all you did.

I've kept busy.  I  cleaned his closet and dresser, I packed and gave away his clothes to Goodwill. I got rid of most of his medical supplies, boxes and boxes of them.  I cleaned the bathroom, emptied all the drawers, super cleaned the toilet and the floors and the tub, I sanitized everything, it looks sparkling!

With time, I would like to make up the guest room into a regular bedroom, and keep his room as an office. That will take time.

On January 22, Lizzie and I went to the Rose Hills Mortuary  and were given a box with Marvin's ashes, and a US flag, since he was an Army Veteran

                                                          The box is a heavy gold tin,

                                                      I haven't taken the plastic cover yet. 

                                       It has his name, date of death and date of cremation. 

                         Right now the box and the flag are on top of his dresser, in his bedroom.

Lizzie has been helping me with a lot of the paperwork. It's unbelievable how much there is to do! Like changing everything to my name, deleting most of his credit cards, of course paying the bills, and a lot more.  I will also try to make a budget for myself since I will not receive anything from his SS, or his pension (that's how we set it up).

I think I'm doing OK. I do have some lonely moments just me and Lulu at home, no one to talk to. Even though Marvin was a man of few words, it was nice to discuss the days happenings with him. I miss that. I do have some crying moments, sometimes is the small things that get to me...
I have lost some weight because I find it hard to cook just for me, but I've been eating out quite a bit. Today I weigh 175 lbs, which is the lowest I've been for a long time.

For the last 6 years, my main purpose was taking care of Marvin, taking him to dialysis and to the doctors, making him comfortable at home, of course taking care of his colostomy (I don't miss that!)
We didn't do very much other than the usual routine, but we tried to go out to eat a couple of times a month. And of course enjoying the girl's visits.

 Right now I feel a little lost. But there's a lot to do, and life goes on.

Recap of 2017

JANUARY

Lizzie and Sonia and Nicole to LM from SD

Sonia and Nicole back to Barcelona

Lizzie to SD.  Rain

To LN with N. French Bistro

M Podiatry. Rain

Sandy’s knee surgery. All well.

 Dr Chapra podiatry

Lizzie to Austin, then to SLC to be with Sandy

Dodge to dealer. M feels weak

Trump’s Inauguration. Lots of rain

FEBRUARY

52nd Wedding Anniversary. We had a cold

Oscars and SuperBowl

DNA results

MARCH

Marv had a procedure done on the 10^th

I had a Mammogram on the 6^th. Needs to be retaken

 Marv dermatology visit the 27^th. Lip biopsy.

Had to Fix our heater

Lunch with N at HB El Ranchito

Lizzie came over bur got sickly at lunch L

Tristan turned 19 years old.

APRIL

To wound nurse

Radiology for me

Podiatry for both of us

Lulu vaccine and salon

Dermatology for me – Lip surgery for M

Marvin’s 77^th birthday. Lizzie over.

Sick with flu April 22, whole week.

New family member : Eddie Thegel

MAY

M’s Computer meltdown

Mother’s Day yumminess and love from my girls J

M. pain on his hip for two days. On our way to ER getting in the car we heard his hip crack.  Broken hip. May 15

Stressed. Had my hair done.

M to rehab  May 18

Girls to Savannah, GA

Lizzie came over May 28-29

Post Op visit. Doing OK. Using walker.     
  

JUNE

M recovering. Get bath bench. Physical Therapist

Pain on my saide, stress&indigestion

Pick lots of tomatoes

Sandy turned 51 J

Lizzie over for Father’s Day, to Black Angus los 3.

JULY

Lizzie to Michigan

Seal Beach with N

Appointment with my new Dr Tran

Nuri’s 76^th BD talk to her and Monica and Sonia later

Sandy and Lizzie over. All of us to El Cholo –July 16

M leg pain. To ER July 22. Cellulitis. Released July 24

AUGUST

Eye infection and anxiety meltdown.

Urgent care and ER. Hip wound infection August 3

Lizzie over. M released August 9

Spider/bug bites on my legs.

Nurses and physical therapists

Terrorism attack in Las Ramblas. August 17

Total eclipse of the sun  August 21

Huge floods in Texas  August 25

SEPTEMBER

M felt sick

Talk to Nuri and Monica.. Lizzie over. M haircut.

Very bad day September 12

Mia’s 63^rd birthday

Girls to Outer Banks NC vacation

Seal Beach. La crema. Harbor House

M didn’t feel well, got transfusions. Leg red and swollen L

Pain on the side of my right knee.

OCTOBER

Catalan referendum for Independence from Spain

Massacre in Las Vegas 58 dead.

Lunch at Ruby’s with N

Wound nurse. To orthopedics. M’s hip has healed.

Edison worked on electric poles

Bought 2018 Honda with M.

Brought car home.

NOVEMBER

To my doctor and radiology, all well. Hair done

Financial advisor over.

M sick at night. Disoriented. Called 911

To ER. Pneumonia. Nov.9 – Released Nov 12

Lizzie over.  Bettie and Lee over

Get mustang panels

Lizzie’s 46^th BD

Thanksgiving with Lizzie, Norbert and Marv

Talk to Sandy about T

DECEMBER

December 5, M was not feeling well. He was very cold.

Went to dialysis and his BP was very low. They called the paramedics. To ER

Everything  was closing down, his breathing, BP etc. Inserted breathing tube and to ICU

Lizzie came over.

To ICU Hard times, bleeding colostomy, Strep Pneumonia, heart, breathing tube, blood pressure…

My 74^th BD. Sandy over. To Marshall’s shopping spree. El Cholo.

Next day to Sunset and Pacific City

M transferred to post ICU. Bad room 2321. His brother and sisters over.

December 21 – Marv made the decision to stop dialysis and come home for the holidays.

Great sad family Christmas. Saying goodbye.

Home hospice. 

December 31. Very weak but the girls and me drank a toast with him to 2018.

Saying goodbye

My husband died peacefully yesterday at home 

with his daughters and me by his side.

May he rest in peace. 

He will be missed.

I love you

1940-2018